Catholic bishops give dating advice

Okay…well, it’s not exactly our bishops.  Rather, Emily Robinson, a 23 year old grad student getting her master’s degree in Social Work, wrote the following article on behalf of our bishops’ For Your Marriage program. 

(By the way, did you know that the U.S. bishops even have suggestions for cheap dates?) 

Dating—that is, scheduling time to spend with a person of the opposite sex to get to know them–can be a wonderful time in a person’s life. It challenges us to grow as individuals and to learn more about others. It can also lead us to grow deeper in faith. Here are four basic points to keep in mind when dating.

(1) KNOW YOUR INTENTIONS

Are you looking at dating as only a means of finding a future spouse?

While it could potentially be the end to the means of dating, finding a future spouse should not be the main intention of dating. That puts too much pressure on each individual date and the person whom you date.

Dating is a time to learn more about yourself through a relationship with others. It is a time to see what qualities you need and like in others. When not limiting yourself to a certain type you will discover new and valuable aspects of each person.

Perhaps you have learned that in relationships you act a certain way that does not really reflect you are or who you want to be. In this case, one can use dating as way to become more genuine in relation to the opposite sex. It will show what you need to “give” in the relationship and what you can “take” from the relationship, too!

(2) STICK TO YOUR BOUNDARIES

Communication is an important factor in any relationship but especially a dating one. One must be honest about one’s own intentions. All relationships need boundaries. A boundary for a practicing Catholic is chastity, refraining from sexual activity before marriage.  Doing this helps build intimacy within the relationship without having sex.

Being up front about one’s beliefs will weed out dates that are not worth your time from those that are. One must not only say things up front but back them up with actions. Do not send mixed messages; be clear and concise in your actions. Date in open public areas where there is no pressure to be physically intimate. If you are on a date where alcohol is served drink in moderation to avoid temptation.

(3) HAVE FUN

Dating is fun if you enter into it with the mentality of enjoying the present moment. When you start to date someone, take the time to get to know them. Rushing into a serious relationship can add too much pressure. Just enjoy the time you have with that person in the present moment; tomorrow will take care of itself. Some fun date ideas include museums, art galleries, bowling, mini golfing, movies, dinner, and rollercoaster parks.

(4) TRUST IN GOD WHILE DATING

Dating is an opportunity from God to learn more about others through entering into a dating relationship with them. Trust that you are in a dating season of your life because God needs you to take the time and be present in dating. Trust that God is leading you always and pray that your dating be fruitful.

“Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” – Proverbs 16:3

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Catholic Pickup Lines

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So, for me, Holy Thursday is by far the most romantic day of the entire year.  Although any day is a wonderful opportunity to express God’s love towards others, there may be a few of you who may make a special effort for the Feast of St. Valentine.  In that case, here are some Catholic pickup lines that you may find useful. 

1. I should start a novena in thanksgiving to St. Anthony because I’ve finally found what I’ve been looking for.

2. You have beautiful eyes; Leah would be jealous. (see Gen 29:17)

3. I like your veil.

4. Am I levitating? Because I think I’m in ecstasy.

5. When I meet the Pope I’m going to kiss his ring. Can I practice on your hand?

6. Introduce me to your parents; I want to thank them for choosing life.

7. I wish I was your scapular so I could remain close to your heart.

8. I’m spending my Purgatory on Earth each moment away from you.

9. When can I see you again? My guardian angel wants to hang out with your guardian angel.

10. Can you light my candle? The wind blew mine out. (at a night rosary procession)

11. Do you know the words of the Te Deum? I’ve got to praise God for making such a beautiful creature.

12. It’s First Friday; do you want to make reparation together?

13. Happy feast of St. Agnes! You know, I had a dream about you last night. I wonder what it means… (according to folklore, the person you dream about on the eve of the feast of St. Agnes is the person you’re going to marry).

14. John Paul the Great must have been inspired by you when he wrote “Mulieris Dignitatem”.

15. St. Peter may have the keys to the Kingdom of Heaven, but you have the keys to my heart.

Here are some others that I found online that you may enjoy.

16. Confess here often?

17. Did you feel what I felt when we reached into the holy water font at the same time?

18. You’ve got stunning scapular-brown eyes.

19. I bet I can guess your confirmation name.

20. Let’s get out of here. I know a much cozier little Catholic bookstore downtown.

21. You don’t like the culture of death either? Wow! We have so much in common!

22. What’s a nice girl like you doing at a First Saturday Rosary Cenacle like this?

23. Hi there. My buddy and I were wondering if you would settle a dispute we’re having. Do you think the word should be pronounced HOMEschooling, or homeSCHOOLing?

24. May I offer you a light for that votive candle?

25. You don’t have an accountability partner? Me neither.

26. The Bible says “Give drink to those who are thirsty, and feed the hungry”; how about dinner?

27. You look so beautiful in that mantilla you wear to Mass.

28. Want to go to Adoration with me?

29. Man does not live by bread alone. So how about dinner and a movie?

30. What do you think Paul meant when he said, “Greet everyone with a holy kiss” (1Pet 5:24)?

31. A little bird… the Holy Spirit actually… tells me we should get to know each other a little better.

32. What are your plans for tonight? Feel like a Bible study?

33. Hi, this pew taken?

34. My prayers are answered.

35. Has anyone ever told you, your eyes are like doves and your neck like the tower of David?

36. Read any good Bible passages lately?

37. You know Jesus? Hey, me too! (from Brittney Quirk)

38. I lost my rosary, can I use your fingers? (from David Napoli)

39. Hey … I don’t want to embarass you but your Scapular strap is showing. So … how long have you been wearing that? We should discuss the Sabatine promises over a 40 hours devotion sometime. (from Robert Klesko)

40. “It’s Passion Sunday, may I hold your palm?” (from Walker Solis ed. by me)

41. Presenting a rose: “I just may be the answer to your Little Flower novena.” (from Walker Solis)

42. Thumbing a rosary: “How ‘bout joining me for a few decades?” (from Walker Solis)

43. “Me, I prefer a more traditional Mass. I’m a regular Latin lover.” (from Walker Solis)

44. “You’re a saint! Kiss me, and make me a second-class relic!” (from Walker Solis)

45. “My Guardian Angel thinks you are cute” (from Aaron Russell)

46. “Is that a new perfume or the odor of sanctity?” (from Walker Solis)

47. If I had a bead for every time I though of you, I’d have a joyful mystery. (from John DeLozier)

48. I love that new Benediction Incense scent on you. (from Alexa Schuele)

49. You are like the book of Revelation. You’ve got me all confused. (from Christa Masson)

50. “I think I am called to the vocation of Marriage. Wanna help?”